on going unnoticed...

I've been a stay at home mom since 2012 and one thing that I'm just now starting to come to terms with is the fact that if you're doing your job as a SAHM well, no one will notice.  The piles of dirty laundry seem to magically wash, fold and put themselves away, the dirty dishes from each meal cease to exist and the million little tasks and errands you complete each day go completely unnoticed - unless you don't get them done, of course. 

I don't mean for that to sound like a complaint. It's not. It's just that in the working world, you [hopefully!] are recognized for doing your job and doing it well. Your coworkers are there to cheer you on and maybe have a cocktail with you during happy hour. You get raises and vacations where you don't have to do your job and can instead relax and come back refreshed.

As a SAHM, your "coworker" is probably your spouse who is away at work most days and dealing with their own to-do lists and daily annoyances and your "boss" is probably a tiny adorable tyrant who pays you in kisses and makes vacations even more work than just staying home.

And even though you spend your days doing the same tasks over and over again, it's still better and more fulfilling than any desk job you've ever had. Because even if the monotony goes unnoticed, it's important. More important than you even know.

love & cupcakes, 


disneyland awesomeness...

Disneyland has become so much more fun now that Scarlett is almost four. She has so many opinions and things she wants to do all on her own - it's a blast! We went to Disneyland the week of Halloween and I think it may need to become a family tradition. We went to Mickey's Not So Scary Halloween Party and brought home a TON of candy - we had to give most of it away! There was no way we could eat it all without making ourselves completely sick - and gaining about twenty pounds each! But we're definitely going agin next year!

This was just before Scarlett went on Big Thunder mountain Railroad for the very first time... 

And this was right after! She loved it! 

My very first Dole Whip float ever - so yummy! 

Such an insane amount of candy... 

I can't wait to go back! 

love & cupcakes, 



Happy happy birthday Isabelle! I can't believe how grown up you've become. I remember when you were the tiniest little bean... 

I hope your day is amazing and I can't wait to go bowling with you!! 

love & cupcakes, 
auntie elissa


lately, again...

My last "lately" post was about a month ago and it was a total downer, right? This last month has improved a lot. I've gotten a bit more into the groove and rhythm of taking Scarlett to gymnastics and storytime and all of our weekly errands and it's not as daunting anymore. 

I downloaded a chore app called "Choremonster" that we really like. Scarlett has her own set of daily tasks to complete [age appropriate ones like brushing her teeth, getting dressed and feeding out cat] and she enjoys checking off each chore so much that it inspired me to make a list for myself, too! It's pretty motivating to have a "reward" that you can trade in your earned points for - Scarlett has gotten a Barbie so far and I almost have enough points for a "Mommy Date" - coffee and a good book all by myself. 

The weather has cooled off a bit, Nick and I have gone on a few dates this month [our amazing anniversary, Jerry Seinfeld, etc] and we have a family Disneyland trip on the horizon. 

Life is looking up... 

love & cupcakes, 

PS - I'm still surrounded by boxes, but I don't care as much anymore. >_<


eight years later...

Last week was our eighth anniversary... We spent our evening eating some amazing food, drinking a whole bottle of champagne, getting some yummy ice cream and topping the evening off with an impromptu tattoo session. 

One of my favorite anniversaries yet. ♥

love & cupcakes, 



Lately I've been drowning in boxes... There are so many left from our move a few months ago that we still don't have quite enough room to set up our dining room table.  I invited my family over for dinner this Friday so now I have a hard deadline to have the dining room set up and box free. Fingers crossed!

Lately I've been feeling swamped with all of my self-imposed chores and errands. We signed Scarlett up for gymnastics three days a week, added a weekly story time to our schedule and run almost all of our errands during the week when it's just Scarlett and I. I'm feeling run down and trapped in a funk. It's supposed to rain tomorrow, so hopefully that will bring me out of my haze and reinvigorate me. I'd love to feel like I'm on top of my game as a stay at home mom, but lately that's not the case. 

Lately I've been really needing a date night. Nick promised that somehow we'd have one this weekend and even if it's just coffee and a stroll, I'd be in heaven. I need some mushy downtime. 

Lately I feel like I need more friend time. I miss hanging out and talking to my girls. We need to make some time to hang out soon. 

love & cupcakes, 


an epic family bike ride....

We've started going on family bike rides each weekend and our last one was a doozy! We made a wrong turn and our quick, easy two mile bike ride turned into an epic seven mile journey with insane gravel hills and sweat by the gallon... But we had a blast. 

We ended our trek with Mexican food and a few much needed margaritas... I'm looking forward to doing it all again this weekend! 

love & cupcakes,